Devotional for Couples
Listen to One Another
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As you look toward your wedding day and a lifetime of marriage, one ingredient will need constant attention for your relationship to flourish. I think you already know what it is—communication.
Listen to One Another
He Who Gives An Answer Before He Hears, it is Folly And Shame To Him. – Proverbs 18:13 (NASB)
As you look toward your wedding day and a lifetime of marriage, one ingredient will need constant attention for your relationship to flourish. I think you already know what it is—communication.
You may think you are communicating now. To a certain degree you are communicating; but the two of you haven’t yet learned to really speak one another’s language.
In some ways, each of you is still somewhat of a foreigner to each other. Learn to use your partner’s style of thinking and speaking when the two of you interact together. This will help you to understand and to draw closer to each other.
Remember that communication is not only talking, but also silence, a quiet look, a gentle touch.
Discover the best time of the day for each of you to communicate and give each other the gift of your individual attention. Set aside a bit of time each day to sit together, hold hands and share your hearts and your deepest feelings.
Make the first four minutes you see one another at the end of the day’s work a time of positive interaction through touch and talking.
Do more than talk; listen as well. Listen with your mind, heart, ears and eyes.
Remember that nonverbal language can say more than words can.
Listening styles also differ, especially between men and women. Practice the principles of God’s Word in your listening.
“I love the Lord, because He hears my voice and my supplications. Because He has inclined His ear to me, therefore I shall call upon Him as long as I live” (Ps. 116:1,2, NASB).
True listening requires total attention, no distractions, and not letting your mind formulate what you will say as soon as your partner stops talking. One of the greatest gifts you can give is to listen.
Too many discussions become dialogues of the deaf. “Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener]” (Jas. 1:19, Amp.). Ask your partner when is the best time of the day to talk to each other.
Consider the following words someone penned years ago (source unknown):
“When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.
“When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
“So please, just listen a few minutes for your turn and I promise I’ll listen to you.”
Above all, remember who it is who never tires of listening to you.
Devotional for Couples
A Marriage Benediction
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Remember that every burden is easier to carry when you have the shoulders of two instead of one. When you are weary and discouraged, look to Jesus to refresh and strengthen you.
A Marriage Benediction
To him who is able to keep you from falling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy—to the only god our savior be glory, majesty, power and authority, through jesus christ our lord, before all ages, now and forevermore! amen.
Jude 24,25
A benediction is usually prayed at the conclusion of the wedding service. You may want to use the following benediction, compiled from various sources:
May your marriage bring you all the fulfillment a marriage should bring and may the Lord give you patience, tolerance and understanding.
May it be full of joy and laughter, as well as comfort and support. May you discover the true depth of love through loving one another.
Remember that every burden is easier to carry when you have the shoulders of two instead of one. When you are weary and discouraged, look to Jesus to refresh and strengthen you.
May you always need one another—not so much to fill your emptiness, as to help you to know your fullness.
May you always need one another, but not out of weakness. Rejoice in and praise one another’s uniqueness, for God is the creator of both male and female and differences in personality.
Be faithful to one another in your thoughts and deeds and above all, be faithful to Jesus. May you see the marriage bed as an altar of grace and pleasure.
May you remember that each time you speak to one another you are talking to someone that God has claimed and told, “You are very special.” View and treat your partner as one who was created in the image of God.
Remember that you are not to hold your partner captive, but to give freedom to become all that God wants the person to be. May you then embrace and hold one another, but not encircle one another.
May God renew your minds so you look to draw out the best and the potential in one another.
Look for things to praise, never take one another for granted, often say, “I love you” and take no notice of little faults. Affirm one another, defer to one another and believe in your partner.
If you have differences that push you apart, may both of you have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May the words “You’re right,” “Forgive me” and “I forgive you” be close at hand.
Thank You, heavenly Father, for Your presence here with us and for Your blessing upon this marriage.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Devotional for Couples
The Art of Patience in Marriage
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You need to be patient with one another. Humans are odd creatures. Not only are our partners funny ducks at times, but you, too, have many quirks that can grate on the nerves of your partner.
The Art of Patience in Marriage
A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense. – Proverbs 19:11
How will you respond when your partner does any of the following:
• Forgets to write down a phone message or forgets to phone about being 15 minutes late for dinner.
• Doesn’t put down the garage door when leaving for work or doesn’t note written checks in the register.
• Eats more ice cream than you would prefer or spends more time hammering away in the workshop than you would like.
• Talks on the telephone too much or thinks you need more exercise.
• Likes to go shopping, but never calls ahead to see if the store carries the product desired or hates to go shopping and never lends a hand in buying groceries or household items.
This is small stuff that can become big stuff. In every marriage, each day produces many small offenses. You will need to learn to ignore the little offenses to make your marriage work.
The more you attack every small infraction of your self-styled rules and regulations, the less room you will find for love and affection in your marriage. It helps to laugh more and legislate less.
You need to be patient with one another. Humans are odd creatures. Not only are our partners funny ducks at times, but you, too, have many quirks that can grate on the nerves of your partner.
You have many weaknesses your spouse will not see in the early days of your honeymoon. We have many habits that can be taken as insensitivity.
God’s Word offers some more advice, “So don’t criticize each other any more. Try instead to live in such a way that you will never make your brother stumble by letting him see you doing something he thinks is wrong” (Rom. 14:13, TLB).
Wisdom leads to patience—to letting the little offenses go. “A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense” (Prov. 19:11). To grow in your marriage, you will need to grow in maturity and wisdom.
Overlooking an offense is not the work of the spiritually immature. Each day couples have countless conflicts, most of which would never happen if people would let the little ones go. Pride, however, gets in the way.
Pride leads to impatience. Pride is the fruit of folly. Folly is the opposite of wisdom. Some people strut about, puffed up in their self-importance, pushing too hard and telling people off. It is better to be humble and let the little ones go. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It is not worth it.
Notice the opening verse: “It is to his glory to overlook an offense”—the individual’s glory, not God’s glory. This is a rare occasion when glory is ascribed to people.
The principle of overlooking offenses is so important to our Lord that He lets people receive glory when they do so.
This is not the same kind of glory God receives; yet you or your partner can receive a kind of glory by letting the little ones go.
The secret to this principle is always to strive to raise the threshold of what you see as “little.” In other words, constantly try to let bigger and bigger offenses become smaller and smaller.
If your partner’s smallest offense that grates your nerves is not putting down the garage door, try putting it down yourself and letting it go.
Is it really a major problem? If so, perhaps you could approach it differently.
Devotional for Couples
Change From Within with the power of Faith
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“I can’t change. I’ve tried and tried. Heaven only knows it’s impossible. I’m stuck.” Many people actually believe those words.
Change From Within with the power of Faith
The word of god is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. – Hebrews 4:12
“I can’t change. I’ve tried and tried. Heaven only knows it’s impossible. I’m stuck.” Many people actually believe those words. They are frustrated with their efforts.
They try not to get upset at others, or blow up, but they can’t seem to change. They have destructive habits. Yet God’s Word emphatically says we can change.
One area in particular that is a source of turmoil for many of us is our thought lives. What goes on in our minds is often a battleground we would not want anyone to view if it were played on a video!
We have negative thoughts about ourselves, friends, employers or employees and even our partners. We struggle with lust, envy, jealousy and pride. We know we want to change for the better, yet we do not seem to change much or as fast as we want.
You will change, however; you can change. You are in for a radical change. Scripture says that because the Holy Spirit dwells in your heart, you will be transformed: “We, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit” (2 Cor. 3:18).
Change is possible for those of us who are believers in Christ Jesus, because our faith is an inward transformation, not just an outward conformity.
When Paul says, “My little children, of whom I travail in birth again until Christ be formed in you” (Gal. 4:19, KJV, emphasis added), he is telling us that we have to let Jesus Christ live in and through us.
In Ephesians 4:23,24, we are told to “be renewed in the spirit of your mind; . . . put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness” (KJV).
The new man has to be put on from the inside. We are able to put on the new man because God has placed Jesus Christ within us. We are to let Him work within us. That means we must give Him access to our memory banks and our past experiences that need to be relinquished.
Look again at Hebrews 4:12. The word “active” means “energize.” God’s Word energizes us for change. How? The apostle Paul says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5).
Yet transformation takes time. It is slow. Sometimes you focus so much on what you want to become you fail to see the progress. If you have ever grown fruit trees or berries you know what I mean.
At first some new growth appears on the plant, then a blossom turns into the fruit. Then the colors change. Although the fruit may have the right color, it is bitter if you pick it too soon. It has not become mature. You have to wait on it. Likewise, you have to wait on yourself.
As a child, perhaps you played a game called “Capture the Flag.” As adults, we need to engage in capturing our thoughts. Why? Because that is usually where negative feelings begin and communication problems start.
How can we capture our thoughts? By memorizing Scripture. What change do you need to make that will make a difference in your upcoming marriage? What thoughts would you like to be rid of today? Write them down.
Ask God to make you aware of when those thoughts pop into your mind. Write down the thoughts you would like to have in place of the old ones. Read them aloud several times a day. And watch out—it will put you on the road to change!
Devotional for Couples
The Importance of Attitude in Marriage
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You have heard the expression, “That person has an attitude.” It is usually said to denote a problem. But attitude can be a virtue! Attitude.
The Importance of Attitude in Marriage
Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is god’s will for you in christ jesus. – 1 Thessalonians 5:18
You have heard the expression, “That person has an attitude.” It is usually said to denote a problem. But attitude can be a virtue!
Attitude. What is it? It is a choice we make to look at life a certain way. It determines the atmosphere of our homes and the way we interact with other people.
Some people claim they were born with gloomy dispositions. Perhaps some of your family members seem to have been born with an abundance of gratitude genes whereas others seem to be shortchanged.
Some have a sore disposition whereas others can be ridiculously cheerful and grateful.
Yet we do not inherit gratitude genes from our parents. We choose to display gratitude. We can choose to be thankful and look for the best and the blessings rather than the defects.
We can choose to search, discover and not take for granted what we have or experience. It will be especially important in your marriage.
Gratitude unexpressed is wasted. If kept private, its benefit is never fully experienced by you or others.
A sense of gratitude can be infectious; it can affect the attitude of others.
We were probably taught to say, “Thank you.” It is even more important to thank God for all we are, all we have and all in which we delight. Again and again the psalms say, “Oh, give thanks to the Lord” or “I will give thanks to the Lord.”
Consider the following Scripture passages:
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful” (Col 3:15).
“Giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light” (Col. 1:12).
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (Phil. 4:6).
The apostle Paul told the church at Thessalonica: “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thess. 5:18).
Scripture tells us that thankfulness is a prerequisite for worship: “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks” (Ps. 100:4).
For what are you thankful? Take a few moments and write your answer. Could it be that some gratitude needs expression in a phone call or a note? What about your parents, grandparents or other relatives?
For what is your future partner thankful? I wonder what will happen when you look at your partner and say, “I’m so thankful for you”?
Perhaps you could ask your parents or partner today for what they are thankful. Never take one another for granted, but let everyone know your heartfelt thanks.
If it is difficult to see for what you can be thankful, begin to look with new eyes—with God’s perspective. Ask Him to illumine the eyes of your heart.
Devotional for Couples
The Path of Communication
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In the journey of marriage, communication stands as the essential path that determines the course of the relationship.
The Path of Communication
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. – Proverbs 17:27
We had selected our destination—a lake miles away. It would take two hours of hiking to get there. As we left the parking area, we were suddenly faced with a choice of trails.
Of the three leading into the mountain area, one seemed to be more traveled and better kept than the others. As we hiked along, we soon discovered that this was a well-traveled and central trail. From time to time a secondary trail branched out to a lake, mountain or high meadow area.
We passed more than 12 branching trails before we reached what we thought was our destination. Instead of finding the lake we were seeking, we had reached a rise overlooking three small but inviting lakes scattered about a basin.
Our trail divided into three paths, each leading through the pines to one of these lakes. We now had a greater variety of available lakes for our fishing expedition.
Thinking back, we realized that our choice of the main path had given us a wide variety of options. No doubt we would have discovered one of the lakes we fished by taking one of the smaller-branching trails.
But the well-worn trail gave access to many natural delights. Without it, our experiences would have been greatly limited.
One of the main paths that feeds the marital relationship is communication. Communication is the main artery that gives access to other avenues.
“Without communication, the possibilities for a relationship become hopeless, the resources of the partners for the relationship are no longer available, the means for healing the hurts that previous communication may have caused are no longer present; and each, when he recovers from his need to justify himself and hurt the other, will find himself in a bottomless pit of loneliness from which he cannot be pulled except by the ropes of communication, which may or may not be capable of pulling him out again because of their weakened condition.”
Reuel Howe said: “If there is any one indispensable insight with which a young married couple should begin their life together, it is that they should try to keep open, at all cost, the lines of communication between them.”
Dr. David and Vera Mace painted the following picture of communication and marriage: “A marriage can be likened to a large house with many rooms to which a couple fall heir on their wedding day.
Their hope is to use and enjoy these rooms, as we do the rooms in a comfortable home, so that they will serve the many activities that make up their shared life.
But in many marriages, doors are found to be locked—they represent areas in the relationship which the couple are unable to explore together. Attempts to open these doors lead to failure and frustration.
The right key cannot be found. So the couple resign themselves to living together in only a few rooms that can be opened easily, leaving the rest of the house, with all its promising possibilities, unexplored and unused.
“There is, however, a master key that will open every door. It is not easy to find. Or, more correctly, it has to be forged by the couple together, and this can be very difficult. It is the great art of effective marital communication.”
Is one pattern of communication better than others? Is one style more productive than others? Many helpful books have been written about this topic during the past few years.
A much older book, however, provides the most comprehensive and helpful pattern of all. This book is called the Bible. You may want to read what is says.
The following verses will help you as you begin your journey: James 3:2; 1 Peter 3:10; Proverbs 18:21; 21:23; 15:4; 25:15; Ephesians 4:15,25.
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When Tough Times Come
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Some rough and tough times may invade your marriage. Life is not smooth; upsets will come. You may wonder what the future holds for you and your partner. What can you do when problems occur?
When Tough Times Come
This is what the lord says: “let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows me, that i am the lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these i delight,” declares the lord. – Jeremiah 9:23,24
Some rough and tough times may invade your marriage. Life is not smooth; upsets will come. You may wonder what the future holds for you and your partner.
What can you do when problems occur? It is simple. Praise God even when you do not know what will happen next. Praise Him for what He will do.
Such praise opens your life to some possibilities you may have never considered. By praising God, you not only become a risk taker, but you also become more aware of what He wants for you. This may be an uncomfortable idea for you.
It may mean that you praise God in an unpleasant job situation or during a difficult financial position.
It may mean praising God in spite of that taxing personal relationship you have in your family life. Perhaps you are troubled and perplexed about some situation. That is exactly when God wants you to praise Him.
When no answers or solutions seem to be available, and you face an immovable mountain, why not praise Him? What do you have to lose? You have already depleted your own answers.
Why not admit it and look elsewhere for solutions and have an attitude of acceptance? Lloyd Ogilvie offers an informative thought along this line: “Consistent praise over a period of time conditions us to receive what the Lord has been waiting patiently to reveal to us or release for us.”
We readily thank people after the fact or if we are guaranteed they will help us out of the predicament according to our plan.
To put our future in the hands of someone we cannot see or touch, however, and say, “Whatever You bring about in this matter, I praise You” is not typical. We resist, rebel and grate at the thought of praising God in every situation.
Think about it for a while before you discount the advice to give thanks “in all circumstances” (1 Thess. 5:18). You may have read and heard this passage presented dozens of times and perhaps ignored it.
On occasion, we grasp at it during times of panic. What if this principle of praise became as regular as our daily eating routine? What might happen to us? It is worth a try.
First, consider who you are praising. Who is God to you? To some, God is a figment of a person’s imagination. To others, a stone deity. A proper concept of God is basic to your existence and to practical daily Christian living.
The best definition of God that has lasted through the years is found in the Westminster Shorter Catechism. In answer to the question, “What is God?” the reply is: “God is a Spirit, infinite, eternal, and unchangeable in his being, wisdom, power, holiness, justice, goodness and truth.” Why were you created? To know God.
What can bring you more contentment, joy, delight and peace than anything else? It is the knowledge of God, as the Scripture passage for today says.
When you and I rejoice in the Lord, we do not do it because we feel like it; it is an act of our wills, a commitment. When we rejoice in the Lord, we begin to see life from another viewpoint.
Praise is our means of gaining a new perspective and new guidance for our bogged-down lives. You may be thinking you are too busy during the day to stop and praise God.
That is just the time to do it, when you are too busy, fretful and overwhelmed. Stop, clear your mind and praise God.
You will feel refreshed. Praising God in advance of a solution is an act of faith, a way of saying, “I don’t know the outcome, but I am willing to trust.” This will be a great boost for your marriage.
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